We are in the midst of what Andy Williams proclaimed as “the Most Wonderful Time of the Year.” However, holidays can be a particularly difficult time following the death of a loved one.
Marie Curie, a UK organization that provides support for those suffering with terminal illness and their families, has published a list of coping strategies for those dealing with the loss of a partner or parent during the holiday season. Their tips include:
- Do things differently. If normal traditions are too painful, try something new.
- Allow yourself to grieve. Acknowledge that the holidays will be difficult.
- Accept that you may not want to celebrate. You don’t need to socialize if you don’t want to.
- Visit a garden. Gardens are a great, quiet space to reflect on your loss.
- Tell others how you wish to spend your time. Choose what you want to do and don’t feel guilty.
- Be kind to yourself. Take a guilt-free nap.
- Reach out for support if you think you need it.
- Involve children in decisions on how they want to spend their time.
- Have quiet time to reflect on the good times.
- Don’t feel guilty if you have moments of enjoyment.
- Talk about favourite memories.
Whatever your situation, may your days be as merry and bright as possible.