Laurie Kilmartin, comedian and author of Sh*tty Mom, has written a funny, lovingly irreverent guide to dealing with the loss of a loved one: Dead People Suck: A Guide for Survivors of the Newly Departed.
Kilmartin’s father died in 2014. Kilmartin live-tweeted through the ordeal. Later, she realized that people are terribly uncomfortable with and unprepared for dealing with the death of those closest to them, so she wrote the Guide.
In it, she recounts the difficulties of dealing with death, and shines a light on the humour that can be found in such a dark time. “I’m a comedy writer, so I sort of manage my emotions by organizing them into jokes – which is terrible for relationships, but it’s great for your Twitter feed.”
Kilmartin recalls telling her son that his grandfather is dying. Her son’s response: “What about his iPad?”.
Kilmartin’s father died on the night of the Oscars. “He laughed as much in death as he ever had in life at an Oscars monologue.”
The book includes chapters entitled:
- “Undo Years of Bad Parenting with the Gift of the Unexpected Check”;
- “The Obituary: A Bad Time for Writer’s Block”;
- “When the Wrong Parent Dies First”;
- “Your Parent Died before You Got to the Hospital, AKA One Final Attempt to Make You Feel Guilty”;
- “Atheists: Prepare to Have Your Unfaith Tested”;
- “The Cemetery: Who Will Ignore Your Mother’s Grave When You’re Gone?”;
- “The Only People Who Get Truly Upset When an 83-Year-Old Dies Are 82 Year-Olds; and
- “’I’m Sorry for Your Loss’; The Aloha of Condolences”;
amongst many others.
Listen to Kilmartin’s interview with CBC’s Brent Bambury here.
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I was reminded today by this insightful article by Bryan A. Garner, titled “10 Tips for Better Legal Writing”, that secondary sources are an important component of legal research.
In addition to the 5th edition of Probate Practice, Ian M. Hull and Suzana Popovic-Montag are also co-authors of the 4th edition of Feeney’s Canadian Law of Wills, along with James MacKenzie. Both of which were recently released.
The 4th edition of Feeney’s provides a straightforward commentary on the existing probate and estate administration regimes, in addition to in depth commentary on the applicable case law. The 4th edition of Feeney’s is a resource that draws from statute and case law across all provinces of this country as well as the Commonwealth and the U.S.
As an example, the 4th edition of Feeney’s was recently cited in Vanier v. Vanier, 2016 ONSC 4620, for the following summary of the law on undue influence (at paragraph 10),
“In general, to establish undue influence, the burden of proof rests with the party alleging it. The extent of the influence must amount to coercion; simple influence is not enough. The testator’s free will must be overborne. Put another way, it is not improper for any potential beneficiary to attempt to influence the decision of the testator provided the pleading does not amount to coercion and the latter continues to act as a free agent. “Some begging is permissible.” See Feeney’s Canadian Law of Wills, 4th at 3.10 to 3.14; Hall v. Hall (1868), L.R. 1 P. & D. 481.”
All 18 chapters of this loose-leaf are available for purchase here at the LexisNexis Online Store.
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